WEDDING BELLS: ARE YOU READY?

Wedding bells....can you hear them? I guess you can! And it's not too far away again. The sounds of matrimony are getting closer with each passing moment as the clock ticks tock, and time is slowly and, if I may add, quickly passing by even in these recent times! But the question remains,: Are you ready to tie the knot again? And for some of us, who haven't been privileged to walk down the isle, 'Are you sure, you are ready now to give up at least part of your Independence and surrender your freedom to a whole new concept called marriage? These are questions we all need to sit down and ask ourselves

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Marriage is a beautiful thing to behold and experience if approached with the right mind set. Firstly, as a single mother, the issue of your spirituality has to be settled. Where are you now in your walk with God? Do you have a true connection to Him and His Son and Saviour Jesus Christ? If not that has to be dealt with by accepting Him into your heart and allowing him take over the front wheel of your life,  affairs and destiny.

 Secondly, where are you now regarding your mental, intellectual and professional life? Since, you don't want to get hitched without adequately developing yourself in this regard, you need to ensure you are contributing at least to a reasonable degree to the intellectual aspect of your relationship with your intended spouse. The Bible says in Amos 3:3, "Can two walk together except they agree?" You need to be in agreement on this plane and be able to at least discuss intelligibly on any subject matter. You don't have to have a profound knowledge about politics, science or technology. Just be abreast with recent happenings in trending topics. Good communication enhances intimacy. 

Thirdly, you need to prepare yourself physically. Like I have always mentioned in my previous posts, it's very possible to let yourself go because of the stress that comes from single parenthood. But you owe it to yourself to care for your personal needs too. For you to even attract that future spouse, you have to look good. Try and set something aside to groom your hair and get new outfits that will enhance your beauty. Use make up and fragrances subtly; you don't have to  be loud or overly indulgent in the use of hair and beauty products. Be led by the Holy Spirit of God. Use beauty products that contain natural ingredients like milk, avocado, cucumber, olive oil and aloe vera gel or plant. Eat well balanced meals that will in the long run reflect on your skin and health in general.

Finally, your sexuality or sex life has to be ready. I really don't encourage pre-marital sex. It's what got most of us into trouble in the first place. And believe me, I know, it can be difficult to remain months and years without sex, especially as single mothers, who do not want to pass the wrong message to our kids, most especially if you have teenage children. But even as you prepare for marriage, it will certainly be worth the wait! Don't get me wrong, I, too have been tempted in this regard, but The LORD has always been my anchor and my stay, guiding me through the tempting times and giving me victory always. 

Read good books on marriage centerd in this area. Work on the theoretical aspect while remaining pure and chaste. And the Good LORD who sees your efforts will make your wedding night a glorious experience, you won't be able to forget in a hurry!